I am one of those annoying folk that always go on about how much I appreciate honesty and can't stand duplicity. Some people find us lot sanctimonious and I do appreciate how this preachiness could be annoying.
I can't say that this comes from a place of not wanting to lie, I'd love it if I could and I guess if I had to....(to save my life or someone I love) I would. It's just generally I am utterly hopeless at lying. I do all the tells, I cover my mouth, I giggle and I most certainly won't look you in the eye. Apparently I have always been like this, since birth, well since I could talk. What I am thinking is generally written all over my face....and then there's the judgemental eyebrow (well that's just a whole other blog).
As you can well imagine this has caused me lots of hassle through the years, in not being able to keep secrets when asked a direct question, not being able to cheat on my partners (I miss out on all the fun) and saying 'no you don't look fat in that'....the list goes on... :)
I've tried other tactics like changing the subject e.g. 'Look a unicorn!' or 'Have I told you lately how beautiful you are?' 'Can you smell a drop bear approaching?' Although these have proven to be somewhat ineffective.
The other reason I don't lie...often...is that I just can't be bothered, it just takes too much energy, much to the annoyance of others who've criticised me for being 'too honest'...priceless.
If everyone dislikes dishonesty so much, how come most of us are so damn good at it? Are men better than women at it or vice versa? Where do we learn this from if our parents tell it's wrong to lie? (unless we're protecting someone's feelings or possibly to avoid a major confrontation (pussy that I am) :))
Is it human nature to lie?
I know it's definitely a social construct, but from there on in, it's up for your discussion and my confusion.
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