Give me kisses forever and a day yeah..... But there’s just one thing..... You don’t have to say

It's the old Hobbes versus Rousseau conundrum....:)ahhh the social contract....

We all want to be loved, shown affection its human nature.  We're drawn to it like moths to a flame, flitting around the warmth of our friends, family and lovers.

Men and women alike.

Are men more innately scared of getting hurt emotionally, are women more romantic by nature?  I'd like to think that all of us in the human race have the same fears of insecurity, loss and abandonment, that we're all on the same footing in the same game.  A good friend said to me once that everyone without exception has a soft inner core, you just have to dig deeper to find some peoples.  

I really would like to believe this but I'm not so sure.

I hear so many stories from both sides of how lovers, wives and partners who've professed undying love and commitment for them have just appeared to change their minds suddenly.  Switch it off or just lie blatantly to cover up a myriad of indiscretions.  This I can't get my head around.

Why say words that you don't mean?  Especially when its not been asked for.  Are those reassurances for yourself, social expectations of what you 'should be saying' or do you really think its what your partner wants to hear?

Why cheat them and yourself?...why not just get out of the relationship?  When did cheating and duplicity become easier than being honest?  Why not just break up with them when it's going sour, cut your losses? Instead of sucking all that remaining juice from an overly squeezed orange.  Is it just cowardice, fear of being alone, fear of a confrontation or all three and more?  Isn't it just easier to rip that plaster off in one quick pull?

Why oh why would you renew a relationship that you really don't have your heart in, to then just destroy the person when you reveal your true intentions?  Pursue someone passionately then stop.  What's with all the drama and complications?  You can't be fickle when it comes to others feelings, it's just not fair.

Say what you mean, mean what you say!

Everyone has a soft core....hmmmm, I believe we're all innately self-preservationist (go Hobbes) and this has led us to a point of extreme ego driven self absorption.  I really believe that people do exactly what they want when they want to do it, with minimal consideration of others.  To the point where we really don't consider other's feelings when we say and do the things we do. Well cause if we did we'd be more honest with ourselves and our loved ones innit.  Self preservationist, take them out before they take you out....human nature.

I know what you're thinking. "Did she fire six verbal shots or only five?" Well, to tell you the truth, in all this excitement I kind of lost track myself. But being as this is an intelligent woman, with the most powerful brain and sarcasm combination in the world, which could blow your head clean off, you've got to ask yourself one question: Do I feel lucky? Well, do ya, punk? 

So no...you don’t have to say you love me, baby it’s alright
Cos honey I don’t care....well unless you really mean it ;)

Next week no moaning or bitching (well I can't promise), only London, pictures, drinking and fun.  I love you London and I missed you like hell.  Yeah baby I'm baaaaacccckkk.